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Parents

“You can’t give what you don’t have.”
“You can’t teach what you don’t believe (live).”
“Kids learn by what you do, not by what you tell them.”

Teens
What do you think is the most wonderful thing about sex?
How would you feel if you were ready to marry someone and you were told he/she had already had sex with ten other people?
How would you feel if you found out you were pregnant? How would it change your life?
How would you feel if you found out you got a girl pregnant? How would it change your life?
What if you had sex with someone you really “loved” and then she/he left you for someone else?
What if you “loved” her/him and ended up with a permanent STDs like herpes?
How would you feel if you got married and both of you were virgins?
Would you trust each other more?
Would you have to compare yourself to your spouse’s ex-partners?
Would you have a guilty conscience?
Would you worry about faithfulness?

Knowledge of Partner
Can’t ask girlfriend/boyfriend about her/his sexual history?
“If you are going to be intimate, you have the right to know.”
“If you are doing adult things, you should be asking adult questions.”
“You are putting your life on the line.”
“If she/he already had twelve partners, what makes you think that you will be the last?”
“If she/he has had that many partners, they have NOT been relationships. He/she is just looking for body parts.”
“Has she/he had sex before?”
“Has she/he been tested?”
        Yes – can’t be tested for herpes or warts, both are forever
        No – ??? doesn’t she/he care about you
“How close are we?”
        Clothes on/clothes off – how close? 3 inches, 2 inches, 1 inch, skin contact
        Already exposed to herpes and genital warts?? They are spread by skin-to-skin contact.
“What would she/he say if you did not want to have sex anymore?” LEAVE??
        “Well that relationship must have meant a lot to her/him?”
        “Does she/he REALLY want YOU or just a warm body?”

Barbara Kazana, CRNP
Adapted by Mary Lee O’Connell, CRNP - 8/04 ©