“Convince Us to Wait!” .pdf
“You can’t give what you don’t have.”
Questions to ask your teen
“You can’t teach what you don’t believe
“Kids learn by what you do, not by what you tell them.”
What do you think is the most wonderful thing about sex?
How would you feel if you were ready to marry someone and
you were told he/she had already had sex with ten other people?
How would you feel if you found out you were pregnant? How
would it change your life?
How would you feel if you found out you got a girl pregnant?
How would it change your life?
What if you had sex with someone you really “loved”
and then she/he left you for someone else?
What if you “loved” her/him and ended up with
a permanent STDs like herpes?
How would you feel if you got married and both of you were
Would you trust each other more?
Would you have to compare yourself to your spouse’s
Would you have a guilty conscience?
Would you worry about faithfulness?
Knowledge of Partner
Can’t ask girlfriend/boyfriend about her/his sexual
“If you are going to be intimate, you have the right
“If you are doing adult things, you should be asking
“You are putting your life on the line.”
“If she/he already had twelve partners, what makes you
think that you will be the last?”
“If she/he has had that many partners, they have NOT
been relationships. He/she is just looking for body parts.”
“Has she/he had sex before?”
“Has she/he been tested?”
Yes – can’t be tested for herpes or warts, both
No – ??? doesn’t she/he
care about you
“How close are we?”
Clothes on/clothes off – how close? 3 inches, 2 inches,
1 inch, skin contact
Already exposed to herpes and
genital warts?? They are spread by skin-to-skin contact.
“What would she/he say if you did not want to have sex
“Well that relationship must have meant a lot to her/him?”
“Does she/he REALLY want YOU or just a warm body?”
Barbara Kazana, CRNP
Adapted by Mary Lee O’Connell, CRNP - 8/04 ©