Reverence for Life
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“It is an illusion to think that we can build a true
culture of human life if we do not help the young to accept
and experience sexuality and love and the whole of life according
to their true meaning and in their close interconnection.”
Pope John Paul II
Key Message: The Goodness of the Body
Original Sin - Is sex good or bad?
- God only gives good gifts. “Designed by God”
– Ask your child, “Would you rather have a car
designed by Ford or Honda or a car designed by God?”
Ask why God’s car would be better. (could trust it,
safer, unique, freely given, etc.) Remind him/her that our
bodies are designed by a loving Father.
- In the story of creation the phrase, "God saw how
good it was" is repeated after each day of creation
until the creation of man and woman (in God's own image).
Then there is an important addition. Instead of referring
to the creation of man and woman as good, the Bible says,
“he found it very good” (Gen 1:31).
- Hail Mary – “Blessed is the fruit of thy womb
Jesus.” Children are often amazed to realize that
baby Jesus grew in Mary’s womb just as they grew in
their own mother’s. Parents can explain that before
a baby is born, he has a special home inside his mother.
This is called the womb and it is where he grows until he
is big enough to be born. (Archdiocese of Washington Guidelines
– Grade 1)
- “…you knit me in my mother's womb. I praise
you, so wonderfully you made me; wonderful are your works”
- “That is why a man leaves his father and mother
and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body.
The man and his wife were both naked, yet they felt no shame
(Gen. 2: 24-25).” When a husband and wife love each
other more than they love themselves and are open to the
transmission of human life, there is never any shame.
What can a parent do?
- Genesis 2:17 “the tree of knowledge of good and
evil” – How does a child who runs around as
an innocent “naked baby” grow into a fourth
grader who says, “I wish you would not talk about
our bodies - they are disgusting.” Please protect
your child from the risks of unsupervised television and
- Genesis 3: 7 shows what happened after Adam and Eve sin,
“Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they
realized that they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves
together and made loincloths for themselves.”
- After Adam and Eve sin, they feel different about God,
their bodies and each other. If the gift of sexuality is
not used as God intends, a person feels differently about
God (Adam & Eve hide), different about their body (they
are ashamed) and different about each other (Adam blames
Eve - he never says he is sorry). Reconciliation gives us
forgiveness and grace to help us remain closer to God.
- When children are taught that God’s plan for the
gift of sexuality is to love one person more than you love
yourself and to welcome the possibility of a new life, they
begin to understand why masturbation and homosexual activity
cannot be part of God’s plan.
- The gift of sexuality can be described as the most beautiful
gift package you can imagine with the most wonderful ribbons
and bows and a tag that says, “Do not open until marriage.”
Using the Correct Terminology
- Emphasize that questions and concerns are normal.
- Use parent-child communication to help children develop
virtues & skills.
- Know what is age-appropriate for your child. Differentiate
between puberty education and sexuality/abstinence/chastity
- Encourage your child’s school or religious education
program to sponsor parent and parent-child programs.
- Form a supportive parent network of families who believe
sexuality is a gift from God that deserves respect.
- Use this network to find baby sitters who can be your
child’s “role models.”
- Have a “code word” your child can use to summon
you if pornography or inappropriate sexual activity becomes
part of a sleep-over or a party.
important parts of our body are the parts that make us a girl
- We cover these parts out of respect.
- Correct anatomical terms are more respectful than slang.
- If children are not taught the correct terms for sexual
body parts, they may conclude some body parts are bad or dirty.
Being an “askable” parent - See Home
page “What should I say?”
- Parents can create an atmosphere that gives “permission
to ask” questions.
- You never want your child to think he/she made a mistake
asking you a question.
- Know the frequently asked questions. See “Kids’
Questions” on website
- Learn age-appropriate answers. See “Parents’
Answers” on the website
- Help your child find the best ways to ask you questions.
Sometimes writing a note is easier than asking directly. Remember
the car can be the best place to talk.
- Unless you plan differently, you may “parent”
your children the same way you were raised. You may repeat
the same mistakes your parents made.
- Children learn by what they see not by what you tell them.
You are their role model. They note your prayer times, language,
dress, TV shows and internet sites.
- Examine your beliefs and values so you can integrate religious
education into sexuality education BEFORE your child’s
school covers the content.
The Virtue of Modesty
- God’s wonderful gift deserves respect and protection.
- The virtue includes language, reading, conduct, gestures
- Emphasize the message that clothing choices can give.
- Encourage a good habit early when sons and daughters are
six or seven years old and you control the shopping.
Defeating Pornography - Suggestions from
Fr. Charley Piatt
1. Pope John Paul II's The Theology of the Body presents
God’s message about the sacredness of the body and of
human relationships. See “God and Sex” on the
2. Viewing pornography does not prove you a real man or woman
(a mature lover). It shows that you do not appreciate the
power and beauty of true relationships. You’re your
child to something higher. Everyone should learn to appreciate
the beauty of all people, not just picture perfect models.
3. Continue with the argument that pornography is degrading.
Depending on the age I might follow with what would you think
if the model was your sister/brother.
4. How about considering that pornography might limit your
ability to sense beauty and be a soulful companion to members
of the opposite sex. Viewing pornography shows an inability
enter into real relationships.
5. More than a few youth have expressed a thought that viewing
pornography reflects immaturity. I think we can build on this.
6. Note: more than a few young women view pictures of a pornographic
nature of men.
“Media Manager” Websites
United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (www.usccb.org)
provides reviews of theatrical movies on network television
plus movie and family DVD/Video reviews.
The Parents Television Council (PTC) (www.parentstv.org)
provides a Family Guide to Prime Time Television with facts
to make informed viewing decisions for their family
National Coalition for the Protection of Children
and Families equips and motivates parents to defend
God’s truths about sexuality (www.nationalcoalition.org)
Mary Lee O’Connell, CRNP - 10/05