God & Sex
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One of the best ways to prepare for children’s questions
about sexuality is to review Pope John Paul II’s teachings
on “The Theology of the Body.” From 1979 to 1984
the pope presented 129 homilies defining who we are and how
we are to live. His wisdom shares the true meaning of God’s
gift of human sexuality.
Questions about sex & God:
- Is sex good or bad? (#1 question)
- Does God think human sexuality is important? If so why?
- Does sex have anything to do with the church or being
- Adults say sex is a beautiful thing. Why don’t
they want us to have it then?
- What does the Church have against porno?
Questions asking for HELP:
- What does the Church expect of me?
- How do you avoid the temptation of sex?
- What are you to do when you have feelings about sex and
you want to try it?
- What are some ways that you can avoid being sexually active
- What are some places to get help about sex and avoiding
Who are we?
- God created us in His image. “Let us make man in
our image.” (Gen 1:26)
- We are the only earthly creatures God created in His
image and likeness.
- We are persons – beings with a mind and a will.
- We are different from the animals because we can think
- The body is a physical sign of who I am. The body expresses
- The body cannot be separated from the person.
- Our bodies express our unique persons, what we know and
What does God want us to do?
Why did God create two sexes?
- We are called to act like God, to express God-like love.
- We are called to love because He loves.
- In loving as God loves, pleasure is not the end in itself.
- Love includes the body because the body is a sharer of
- Jesus reveals how we are to love. His death on the cross
was a freely given gift of self. For a man and a woman to
love each other as Jesus loves, their sexual union should
be a free gift of self, that is a total giving, faithful
- Our bodies can make the love of God visible in our world.
- The Ache of Solitude –“It is not good for
man to be alone. I will make a suitable partner for him.”
(Gen. 2:18 )
- God created man and woman with different bodies so “two
could become one flesh.”
(Eph 5:31) The male and female bodies do not make sense
- Male and female bodies were created to express this act
- The call to be one is not just a physical call; not just
parts fitting together.
- Man and woman’s desire for each other is inspired
by God so they can share their love with one another. The
whole focus is to love one another as God loves us.
- When a man and woman give themselves to one another,
it is not only biological but a union of the innermost being
of the human person.
- “The man and his wife were both naked, yet they
felt no shame.” (Gen. 2:25) When the gift of sexuality
is used as God intends – to love another more than
you love yourself, to be faithful to that person for the
rest of your life and to be open to the creation of a new
life – there is no shame.
What is unique to married love?
- Man and woman are meant to love and be life-giving in
- Marriage is the natural institution that does this. It
provides the sacramental grace to support the mother and
father in their lifetime commitment to each other and any
children that they may have.
- The husband and wife give themselves to one another through
acts which are proper and exclusive to their spouse.
- When one loves as God asks us to love and is loved in
return, this love shows the world not just how the married
couple loves but how God loves.
- The bond of a man and woman in marriage is a unity of
persons. It mirrors and reflects the unity of the Trinity.
The crisis in our culture, the misuse and abuse of
What is God’s answer for our world?
- Look at the messages behind slang terms.
- Men and women are used for their partner’s gratification.
- If we do something to someone’s body, we do something
to the person.
- If you use someone’s body, you use the person.
- Each person is “a special order.” We are
each an unrepeatable being as no two persons are alike.
- Human beings have a dignity and value greater that anything
else on earth.
- Pornography lies about the meaning of the body. It portrays
the body to incite lust i.e., craving sexual activity for
the sake of selfish pleasure. It degrades the person. The
woman allows herself to be used and the man uses the woman.
- Instead of a self-giving love, man and woman seek a distorted
version of love by allowing themselves to be used, dominated
- “Blessed are the pure of heart for they shall see
God.” Purity of heart allows us to see the face of
Christ in every person; to see a person, not a thing to
- God’s goodness and beauty are still within us.
We are called to reclaim this vision. It can be experienced,
not perfectly, but progressively with God’s help.
- Modesty, showing respect for ourselves and others in
the way one speaks and dresses, protects us from lust.
- Lust, the unrestrained desire for sexual gratification,
alters our intentions and how we see one another.
- JPII calls us to experience a victory over lust, to be
purified from lust. We are called to live morally, to be
attracted by what is good, not just follow rules.
- The “Power of the Gospel” – when God
penetrates the human heart, there is no imposition because
then we desire not to sin. St Paul, “For those who
follow the spirit, they are free from the law.” (Rom
- Jesus calls us to do what we can’t. St. Paul “When
I am weak, I am strong.” (2 Cor 12:10) By acknowledging
our powerlessness to live as called and accepting Jesus
as our savior, the power of the Holy Spirit becomes a part
of our lives. The Holy Spirit enables us to do what we thought
we could not by ourselves.
How can we love as God loves?
- God has given us the gift of human sexuality with instructions
for happiness, not rules to take away our pleasure.
- We don’t always do what we should do. Just because
we have an inclination or desire, doesn’t mean we
should do it. We become what we want to be.
- When you love someone, a spouse or a child, you can be
transformed. As you love another more than yourself, you
become less selfish and more free to love.
- God has given us many gifts to help us love as he loves;
the sacraments, the Mass, scripture and prayer. The challenge
is how to encourage children to use these gifts.
A Parents’ Challenge
- Good News/Bad News, Children learn by what the see not
what we tell them. They learn about love and service to
others from their family.
- Teach children to love as God loves. It is important
to surround your children with people who will teach them
what love is all about and how to love. Know the parents
of your child’s friends and foster good friendships.
- How do parents respond to stress and anger? With courage
- How are arguments settled in the family? With forgiveness?
- Does the family pray together, go to Mass and receive
the sacraments, especially the Eucharist and Reconciliation?
Eucharist transforms us by the love and self-sacrifice of
Reconciliation frees us from sin so we can go back and love
Scripture helps us learn more about our loving Father, how
we can follow Jesus and how the Holy Spirit can strengthen
Mary Lee O’Connell, CRNP - 8/04